Being a student isn’t easy, but yet…you knew that already. That’s nothing new. Stress consumes all of us, student or not; from societal pressures, to school, to work, to relationships, to daily life, we learn to cope in different ways. For me, music heals my soul. Every time I’m stressed, I put on my favorite new songs, and within minutes, I calm down. I don’t zone out from the real world, but I do become entranced by the music to my ears. It’s amazing what music can do for you. (more…)
Communication is at the core of all relationships, including work relationships. Most people quit their jobs because of the work environment, not due to the job itself. A recent study by Accenture reports the top reasons for quitting a job in America are disliking one’s boss (31%), a lack of empowerment (31%), internal politics (35%), and lack of recognition (43%).
This phenomenon reflects our collective need for better emotional intelligence and communication skills. One tool that has been useful for me is nonviolence communication (NVC). The “nonviolent” in NVC refers to communicating in a way that does not result in harm. In other words, it means communicating without the use of guilt, humiliation, shame, coercion, threats, and moral judgments, among other things. NVC follows a process of (1) observation, (2) feelings**, (3) needs, and (4) requests. (more…)
When I was on the Varsity Badminton Team, it was difficult to recruiting new talent because students believed that it is a huge time commitment. Personally, I felt being on the team did not take my time away, but rather it saved my time. Unfortunately, I only joined in my third year due to injuries. But my first semester on the team, I achieved my best GPA. And despite no longer playing for the team, currently I continue to train in a private badminton club. Here are the three main reasons why I believe having a regular extracurricular activity makes me more efficient and effective with my time:
Oh, the joys of University. A place with much potential, yet so many problems. It’s a place where you can learn new things, but then forget them in a heartbeat in the next semester; it’s a place that encourages persistence, determination and hours and hours of effort and stress, all for one final grade. It’s a paradox, really. You might be wondering, “will I ever get my social life back?” or “does life get any easier?” I can speculate about the former, but sadly, I only know the true answer for the latter – NO. Life is hard and it will keep being hard. That doesn’t ever change. Let me use the logic of high school math to explain why. (more…)
As much as I love writing about careers, studying and self-help, my passion is in culture writing and life in Montreal.
If you haven’t noticed -or rather, if you haven’t stepped foot outside- Montreal is bursting with loud, live activities.
As an English major with a deep set yen for all things literary, I consider my passion pretty strong and worth following. He disagreed, saying that graduates today are too often told to follow their passion and pursue outlandish dream jobs with no real perspective for the careers that actually need to be filled.
What I thought was interesting, though, was how often I began hearing this “Don’t follow your passion” speech.
It seemed to be popping up everywhere as convocation ceremonies began. What exactly does this mean?
I was once told, “If you want something done, ask a busy person” and I thought that was insane logic. If someone is busy, how can they get anything new finished, they’re already preoccupied. On the contrary, this has proved time and time again to be a tried and true pattern with successfully productive, proactive people.
Criticism is a difficult tool. In the right hands, it can fix, improve and perfect. But it’s all in how you take your tea, so to speak. Not everyone is going to sugar coat it and oftentimes it’ll just be given to you straight. It’s understandable that these things can make you feel a bit bitter, but criticism is meant for you to use so that you can be better. It’s meant to be considered and applied but not destructive. You should be proud of the work you accomplish but open to the possibility of imperfection. Everything in moderation *sips tea*.
Big changes are coming my way for the 2016-2017 academic year – I’ve been accepted to attend Durham University in England on a McGill exchange! This is going to be a huge life change, but one for which I am extremely excited to begin preparing. (more…)