Managing Rejection

REJECTIONI don’t know about everyone else, but I’m the type of person who fears rejection. So much so that I used to avoid applying for positions, jobs or even scholarships I was interested in. For whatever reason, I was convinced I wouldn’t get them and that I was better off saving myself the misfortune of rejection. I soon realized that this wasn’t a healthy mentality to maintain and that I wasn’t doing myself any favours.

If you’re like me and the thought of potentially being rejected gives you hives, I’ve got some news for you: you have absolutely nothing to lose from trying. Even if you don’t get the job or the scholarship, at the very least, you’ll come out of the process with more experience. As cliché as it sounds, what you learn from unsuccessful attempts will only help strengthen your applications in the future.

In case you need additional help overcoming your aversion to rejection, I’ve compiled some of the tips I found most helpful in coping with rejection. Step one is let go of your pride and check your ego at the door. Most of the time, my fear of rejection stemmed from a desire to keep my pride in tact, but let’s be honest, saving face doesn’t get anyone far in life. My next piece of advice is to expect or anticipate rejection to some degree. I’m not encouraging you to adopt a wholly pessimistic attitude, but it can be helpful to let yourself get comfortable with the possibility of denial and soften the blow a little bit. Thirdly, it’s important not to dwell. My all means, take some time to be disappointed, but don’t ruminate on your frustration and let it spoil the experience. Instead, channel your initial disappointment into your next attempt. In other words, turn your setback into a stepping-stone. Which brings me to my final tidbit of advice: reflect. Take time to think about what went well and identify areas that need improvement. For instance, during my first ever interview for a retail position, I was asked about the company’s history. All I could offer was that it originated in Spain. Needless to say, I didn’t get the job. But since then, I’ve made it a point to familiarize myself with the companies I seek employment at.

Hopefully, this post will help some of you cope with rejection. Just remember, don’t let something as trivial as a fear of rejection deter you from pursuing your goals and ambitions.



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